As human beings, everyone has a unique personality and background. We are therefore bound to have disagreements at one time or another. Sometimes, we fail to agree, and only a third party can help us reach an agreement. Disputes can have adverse effects on our daily lives so we must seek for peace, even if it means involving a third party. The process of engaging a person not privy to the disagreement is known as mediation. However, if at all you want to have a fruitful mediation process, there are basic steps you have to follow as outlined below.
Be careful in choosing a mediator. The key to having a successful mediation lies in the kind of person you will involve for the negotiation process. You need to have the same objective as the mediator otherwise the outcome will not please any of the disputing parties. The character a mediator possesses lays the foundation for the results of the mediation. Directors will push for an immediate conclusion of the matter. Influencers aim for the mediation process to be socially-lubricated. Influencer mediators make the likelihood of getting amicable terms higher. They will dig towards the cause of the disagreement and work towards an agreement with all the information at hand, Such a mediator will follow directives.
Also, a fruitful mediation requires that the mediator is well-prepared. The mediator should make sure the client is aware that not every mediation has positive results The client should inform the mediator what he can accept when all else fails. The mediation should come to an end if the mediation does not meet the client’s bottom line. However, he must be persistent and make counteroffers that are in the client’s interest. Still, he must be patient enough to allow the mediation to take the necessary course that may favor his client, eventually.
Mediation should also occur in a place and time that offers an advantage to the client. No distraction should be present in the surroundings selected for the negotiation to take place. Both of you should take time to know the place by arriving a few hours before the mediation starts. The mediator should set everything needed for the mediation. Some equipment will help in the process, and if you have them, you should prepare them before the process begins.
Finally, information is power and every bit of information can make or break your case. It would be better if you only gave out the details that will help your case. A mediator should seek for any loopholes and weaknesses that can bring down the case, then ensure they remain covered for the client’s sake. Do not reveal to the other party all the information you have. Slow revelation of information puts your client at an advantage and the element of surprise can help your client’s position.